Everybody your age seems to have gotten instructions you didn't get. Your cousins are buying houses. Somebody's engaged. Somebody finished the degree you started. And you're saying "not much, just working," because the real answer is you're not where you were supposed to be, and you've stopped believing that's going to change. If your family immigrated, there's another layer to it. You weren't just their kid. You were the plan. They gave up a lot, and you were the thing it was supposed to buy. So it's not only that you feel behind. It's that you feel like you cost somebody something. You don't say that out loud. And when people tell you you're being too hard on yourself, it doesn't touch it. I don't think you're being negative. I think you're doing math. You tried, nothing moved, and you stopped expecting it to. And the shutting down isn't laziness. It's what anybody does when nothing comes back. You probably already know most of this about yourself. Knowing it hasn't changed it. Knowing and changing are two different things, and I work in the space between them. I'm a Bilingual (English/Spanish) Associate MFT, first-generation Guatemalan, raised in an immigrant household in Los Angeles. Warm, direct, honest. Teens, adults, and couples. Online across California, in person in LA. Start with a free 15-minute call.