Shatarra DeVose - Founder and Licensed Mental Health Counselor

So many neurodivergent women repeat this during our initial call. They're overwhelmed, burned out, and exhausted from masking? They silently and shamefully wonder if Autism or ADHD is impacting their relationships, communication, and emotional connections. They want change, but it feels too foggy to reach. If this sounds like you, you've come to the right page! I'm here to help you gain deeper understanding around your patterns and lasting change in your relationships. _____________ ABOUT ME __________________ I provide counseling for neurodivergent women, couples, and families who are tired of ending their day with anxious replays of earlier encounters. I created It Takes Two Counseling because I realized that we all have blindspots that leave us feeling misunderstood, confused around how to fix our own behaviors, and deeply hurt by the responses of others. We need two things: (1) understanding people and (2) affirming environments that encourage our masks to drop, authenticity to show up, and shame to exit. _____________ SERVICES __________________ * NEURODIVERGENT WOMEN'S COUNSELING * Many neurodivergent women carry a quiet exhaustion — anxiety, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and chronic self-doubt. Things can easily get complicated as they receive a late diagnosis, self-identify with the possibility, or are in the beginning stages of exploring. Together we work on: • Reducing overwhelm and emotional shutdown • Untangling people-pleasing and perfectionism • Understanding late diagnosis or self-identification • Building confidence and authenticity • Healing relational trauma and attachment wounds • Navigating faith transitions and identity shifts * NEURODIVERSE COUPLES COUNSELING * In mixed-neurotype and neurodiverse relationships, partners often care deeply yet feel stuck in painful cycles that breed resentment, bitterness, and emotional disconnection. We focus on: • Communication differences related to Autism or ADHD • Emotional disconnection and conflict cycles • Sensory and intimacy differences • Rebuilding trust after betrayal • Strengthening attachment and emotional safety * Family Counseling for Neurodiverse Families * In neurodiverse families, members often love one another deeply yet feel overwhelmed by misunderstandings, emotional outbursts, or ongoing tension. Support includes: • Parent-child dynamics • Reducing shame and blame • Emotional regulation skills • Strengthening connection across neurotypes • Building healthier relational patterns * Anxiety, Trauma & Identity Support * It's not uncommon for neurodivergent individuals to also carry anxiety, unprocessed trauma, relational wounds, or identity confusion that quietly shapes their lives. Together, we move from shame and survival patterns to steadiness and self-trust We focus on: • Strengthening emotional regulation • Healing attachment injuries • Processing and integrating trauma • Building a more confident, authentic sense of self For individuals navigating: • Anxiety and chronic stress • Relational trauma • PTSD and other trauma events • Burnout and masking fatigue • Faith transitions • Self-esteem and identity clarity _____________ MY APPROACH __________________ Counseling with me is warm, collaborative, practical, and evidence-based. I make it a priority to tailor therapeutic approaches to your unique neurotype and goals. My work is grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and Family Systems. However, I integrate other evidence-based modalities when necessary. _____________ What You Can Expect __________________ During session we will: •Identify and maximize strengths • Heal from relational trauma and betrayal • Reduce shame and unhelpful masking patterns • Build clarity, confidence, and healthier relationships • Learn tools to manage overwhelm, anxiety, and conflict • Improve communication and emotional connection If you’re ready to break painful cycles and build stronger, more secure relationships — with others and with yourself — I’m here for you.